Making Emotional Choices
Making Emotional Choices
At one time or another, you may have heard the expression, "Think
with your head, not with your heart."
For the most part, this is sound advice. But, under some circumstances, making the best
choice demands that we make decisions based on how we feel. Absolutely!
But, before exploring when and why to let your heart choose, let's get
into why we've come to depend upon our heads (logic) to make choices that won't
lead us down the path of heartache.
When we have a dilemma, our minds use facts to narrow down
the best choice by assessing the most important factors of that situation. We consider who and what will be affected and
when, where, how, and why something could be positively or negatively affected.
For example. let's say you're engaged to the love of your
life. The night before your wedding, you catch your fiancee' hooking up with
the waiter or waitress from the restaurant where the two of you dined the day
before. If you think logically, you may be compelled to follow through with
your wedding plans since you've already spent loads of money on the wedding and
the honeymoon. Emotionally, though,
you're a wreck. Your heart's beating
fast, you're angry, you no longer trust your fiancee', you're considering going
Carrie Underwood on them by slashing
all the tires on your fiancee's car and the neck of the home wrecker, your ego
has taken a major beating, and your river of tears can break the most
well-built dam. Not to mention, your eyes have become so red and puffy that
you're sure your wedding guests will be ultra-focused on how messed up you look. Therefore, you're considering postponing the ceremony anyway.
You may think that the choice is difficult to make. But, in
this situation, you'd be more emotionally
damaged than outwardly damaged. In order to fix this situation, you'd have to do damage-control so that you
don't spiral out of control. If you use
your head to make to decide about your fiancee's indiscretion and getting
married, you may wind up divorced a year later because the marriage began with
a weak and sorry foundation filled with lies, lack of trust, and animosity.
It is all right to make an emotional choice (one based what
your heart tells you) if the logical choice would leave you too unhappy and emotionally
bruised. The exception to this is if your emotional choice would cause physical
harm to you or your love ones.
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